The art of impermanence Waves will come, just ride them better

The art of impermanence Waves will come, just ride them betterThe art of impermanence Waves will come, just ride them betterOur thoughts are like waves in the ocean. They keep coming. Sometimes, it feels like the waves are bigger and were fighting for air. Fortunately, it doesnt have to be this way.I have been practicing mindfulness for about a year and change. I try for 15 minutes a day, and most days I hit the mark. This article isnt about the benefits of mindfulness but about one lesson I learned early on that stuck with me since.Its the art of impermanence. The basic idea is that well, everything in life is fleeting. Those emotions, thoughts, stresses, challenges, highs, and lows - they come and go. Moments in life are a constant state of change, and when we accept this reality, it can bring great peace. This concept of impermanence doesnt change anything in yur life, but it can make the ride simpler.Here are a few more things you can come to expect when practicing the art of im permanence.Impermanence helps you remember that sh-tty moments are just thatWhen we accept impermanence, we know that just as there are good thoughts, there are sh-tty ones. The key to remember that these are your thoughts and you have complete control over whether or not to give them roots. Next time you have a negative thought, emotion, etc. acknowledge it, and let it go. The cool thing is the more you practice this, the easier it gets. Dont give those thoughts room in your mental house - they can enter, but they are not welcome to stay.If you give things more time and energy than they deserve, theyre no longer lesser things. Youve made them important by the life youve spent on them. And sadly, youve made the important things - your family, healthy or true commitments - less so as a result of what youve stolen from them Ryan Holiday The Daily Stoic.Impermanence means you might appreciate the happy moments moreThis whole idea that you can be 100% happy all the time is bull. If y ou continue to believe this every day, you are rahmen yourself up for failure. Just as you can choose to let negative thoughts or feelings go, you should accept that happy ones dont stay long in your mental house either. And rather than continuing to chase them to block out the negative ones, you need to accept that they both will visit from time to time. Stop seeking happiness all the time, learn to appreciate it when it comes around.Gratitude helps us realize what we have. The awareness of what were grateful for can lessen our tendency to want more all the time.Its partly sunny or partly cloudy - Your choiceWhen you look up in the sky on a partly cloudy day, you have a choice - you can see that there is plenty of blue and sunshine in the sky, or you can choose to focus on the clouds. I believe that no matter the situation you can learn to see the good in it.When my daughters left for college, I chose to appreciate the opportunity that lies ahead for them and look forward to how they respond to these new challenges. Had I just focused on the fact they were leaving, I would have wound up sitting in a corner and crying.Granted, there are things in life that you have to dig deep to find the good, but if you practice taking a moment and looking for the positive, youll see a lot more of it around.Changing your view of reality can have such profound effects that you can attract what you desire. It is not about wishing for riches, but it is changing your view of the world so that you can see riches coming to you.It can bring a sense of calm to the chaosThink of all the calm you can bring to your life when appreciating impermanence. Did you move into a new dorm and are feeling sad to have left home? Now you know that this moment, while sh-tty and you are certainly feeling it, will pass and it wont hurt as much. Did you have a really good laugh with a friend? Take a moment and appreciate it before its gone. Moments are just that - a moment. So learn to enjoy the go od ones and let the others go and pretty soon youll feel an overall sense of calm.Calm is strength and power - This means you are not letting your impulses control you and you are no longer the puppet of your negative emotions. This is the ultimate display of strength and power.It helps increase empathyI find that practicing the art of impermanence has increased my empathy. Allow the state of impermanence in your life, and you carry less judgment. This state of accepting moments for what they are will enable you to appreciate moments more and increased our empathy for others.Practicing empathy can do a world of good. It allows you to see someone elses perspective - and that could do wonders for your relationships, your stress and more.Its free - No subscription or prescription requiredAccepting the state of impermanence is FREE. You dont have to sign up for a class, download an app or register somewhere online. No grades, there is no teacher standing over you. No need to carry a large textbook, take quizzes or tests. Start right this second and you can do it at no cost. Heres how - the next thought that comes to your head, acknowledge it and let it go. Now repeat.Maybe it takes a bit of practiceWhile you dont have to pay, like all things, it will take a lot of practice. And, you will find that there are many moments where the idea of accepting thoughts for what they are is not as easy as we hoped.I always remind myself that practicing mindfulness or allowing a state of impermanence doesnt make the waves go away, but they dont seem as big as they once were. Keep working at this every day, and soon youll find the ride is not bad at all.This article is dedicated to my kids. In my opinion, they have it a lot harder than we ever did. Hopefully, they can tack this on their wall and remind themselves that this ride is much more comfortable when you let the waves come and go.Thisarticlefirst appeared on Medium.

Study Your partners cell phone use might be dragging down your career

Study Your freunds cell phone use might be dragging down your careerStudy Your partners cell phone use might be dragging down your careerYour spouse answering his bosss call at home could be wrecking your career.A new study in the Journal of Occupational Health Psychology found that a spouses cell phone use at home can lead to a lower sense of job performance and satisfaction for their partner.Study Smartphone use during family time leads to poorer job performanceThe study surveyed 344 married couples who worked full-time about their mobile phone use. The partners who watched their spouses use a smart devices during family time at home reported lower job satisfaction and rated themselves as weaker performers at work.So why does our partners phone scrolling impact us at work?Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and moreThe study suggested that using smartphones during family time created rela tionship tension that spills over to work outcomes for the spouse in the form of reduced job satisfaction and performance.What employers can doThe researchers suggest that employers can avoid productivity and employee engagement losses by keeping their professional interactions to work hours.Its really no surprise that conflict was created when a spouse is using a mobile device at home, Wayne Crawford, one of the studys authors, said. Theyre sometimes engaging in work activities during family time. What that ultimately leads to, though, is trouble at work for both spouses. So, whether companies care or dont care about employees being plugged in, those firms need to know that the relationship tension created by their interaction with their employees during non-work hours ultimately leads to work-life trouble.When you contact your employee after hours, recognize that this decision is likely to negatively impact their personal life, creating a negative mood that they are going to carry with them the next day at work.The research behind how technology at work can hurt usResearch has found that mindlessly using technology can negatively impact employees. Our devices are addictive, and when we see our coworkers unternehmensverbund them in their hands, we feel like theyre too distracted to listen to us. One study found that employees who saw their bosses holding-gesellschaft their phones in work interactions felt snubbed by them and said that they did not trust their boss to support them.This study takes that research one step further, showing us how technology at work can impact both professional and personal relationships.When you bring your work home with you, the decision will not only affect you, it may professionally affect your partner as well.The bottom lineLooking at your phone at home in front of your spouse can signal to your partner that your phone is the most important relationship in the room.This article was originally published on January 12, 2018.You might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 lessons from Benjamin Franklins daily schedule that will double your productivityThe worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs10 habits of mentally strong peopleStudy Your partners cell phone use might be dragging down your careerYour spouse answering his bosss call at home could be wrecking your career.A new study in the Journal of Occupational Health Psychology found that a spouses cell phone use at home can lead to a lower sense of job performance and satisfaction for their partner.Study Smartphone use during family time leads to poorer job performanceThe study surveyed 344 married couples who worked full-time about their mobile phone use. The partners who watched their spouses use a smart devices during family time at home reported lower job satisfaction and rated themselves as weaker performers at wo rk.So why does our partners phone scrolling impact us at work?Ladders is now on SmartNewsDownload the SmartNews app and add the Ladders channel to read the latest career berichterstattung and advice wherever you go.The study suggested that using smartphones during family time created relationship tension that spills over to work outcomes for the spouse in the form of reduced job satisfaction and performance.What employers can doThe researchers suggest that employers can avoid productivity and employee engagement losses by keeping their professional interactions to work hours.Its really no surprise that conflict was created when a spouse is using a mobile device at home, Wayne Crawford, one of the studys authors, said. Theyre sometimes engaging in work activities during family time. What that ultimately leads to, though, is trouble at work for both spouses. So, whether companies care or dont care about employees being plugged in, those firms need to know that the relationship tension created by their interaction with their employees during non-work hours ultimately leads to work-life trouble.When you contact your employee after hours, recognize that this decision is likely to negatively impact their personal life, creating a negative mood that they are going to carry with them the next day at work.The research behind how technology at work can hurt usResearch has found that mindlessly using technology can negatively impact employees. Our devices are addictive, and when we see our coworkers holding them in their hands, we feel like theyre too distracted to listen to us. One study found that employees who saw their bosses holding their phones in work interactions felt snubbed by them and said that they did not trust their boss to support them.This study takes that research one step further, showing us how technology at work can impact both professional and personal relationships.When you bring your work home with you, the decision will not only affect you, it may professionally affect your partner as well.The bottom lineLooking at your phone at home in front of your spouse can signal to your partner that your phone is the most important relationship in the room.

Tips to Trick Out Your LinkedIn Profile and Get Noticed by Recruiters

Tips to Trick Out Your LinkedIn Profile and Get Noticed by RecruitersTips to Trick Out Your LinkedIn Profile and Get Noticed by RecruitersIt can be easy to ignore your LinkedIn profile when you have a job. You might log in every now and then to add a few people you met at the last networking event you attended. You might even look at connection requests and actually accept a few, but everything else? Meh, youll get around to it the next time you really need it.We definitely do bedrngnis recommend this approach You never know when someone from your dream company might search for youit could happen This unimaginable occurrence is why you should review your LinkedIn profile regularly and give it an overhaul once a quarter minimumFor this reason, were providing a few tips to trick out your LinkedIn profile and to give your profile some serious shine to help you get noticed by the recruiter from your dream company. Read onPut in some timeThe more you complete your profile, the better the odds that a potential employer or recruiter will find you. Completing your profile is probably one of the most important parts. Make koranvers you fill out the skills section, where youve worked and what people think about you. Dont be lazy fill it ALL outGet a LinkedIn custom URLInstead of having an automatically assigned URL that reads, LinkedIn.com/123456789, you want one that reads LinkedIn.com/JoeSmith (or some sort of simple variation of your first and last name, if you have a common name). So, how do you get a custom URL?Click on edit profileLook toward the bottom of the gray window that shows your basic informationLook for Public Profile URLClick edit next to the URLSpecify what you would like your address to beClick Set Custom URL when youre finishedAdd a photoAlways choose a clear (not out of focus), friendly, professional image and add it to your profile. A profile photo goes a long way to convey who you are.Write a rocking headlineDont just put your job title and compa ny in your headline, especially if youre looking for a job. Use this valuable space to succinctly showcase what sets you apart from the competition, and be specificTake advantage of target job descriptionsTake a look at the job descriptions of positions youre looking for and then dump them into a word cloud tool like Wordle. Do you binnensee words jumping out at you? More than likely, those words are what recruiters are searching for in an employee. Sprinkle these words and phrases throughout your summary and experience.Use the summary space wiselyYour summary space should be no more than 4-5 sentences (with a list of skills if you cant quite fill out that much space). This section should walk the reader through your work passions, key skills, qualifications that make you unique, and a list of industries youve worked in.Remove any buzzwordsWords like, responsible, creative, effective, analytical, strategic, patient, expert, organizational, driven, and innovative are the most overuse d buzzwords on LinkedIn. We know you can do better than thatHighlight your achievementsHigh performers are top of the list when recruiters spend hours scouring LinkedIn, so serve yourself well by adding them to your summary and experience sections.Add your work experiencesShowcase your work experience by adding company websites, projects youve worked on, articles youve written, or anything else that will provide them with a look at your work. Add photos, videos and slideshow presentations to your summary. All you need to do is scroll down to your summary, click on the box symbol and then click on add file.Make sure people can find youAdd your email address, blog, Facebook profile, Twitter handle or anything else that allows recruiters to find you. Dont forget to join and participate in groups and connect with leaders in your industry.A great LinkedIn profile is not only robust, active, and thorough, but searchable as well. When recruiters search keywords for new talent, are you gett ing noticed? With Executive Drafts LinkedIn optimization service, youll start getting noticed by recruiters and watch the employers come directly to you Contact us today to get started.